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So, why does love actually matter?
Love.
Affection.
Closeness.
Intimacy.
We all desire these things from our partner.
And your partner surely desires the same from you.
Giving love to your partner and, more generally, giving love to the world is important.
It’s important because love is the marker and expression that moves life and the world forward.
In fact, without love, there would be no economy.
Without love, there would be no intimate connections.
Without love, life would be dismal.
I fully believe that love moves us forward in a way that no other emotion could.
In this post, I will give you my 7 personal and practical ways to give and express love.
Love gives many lives meaning and moves humanity in such a way that no other emotion or expression ever could.
Thus, by giving your partner love, you are indirectly contributing to humanity at large.
Oh, and always remember: you get what you give.
How to Give Your Partner Love
1. Find out their love language
Okay, so what exactly is a love language?
Well, there are actually five of them.
A love language is a way of expressing, communicating, and illustrating love.
It is how you give and receive love.
By finding out what your partner’s love language is, you will recognize exactly how they give love and how they want to be loved.
Which, in turn, will make your relationship more harmonious and synergistic.
You and your partner may have different love languages or different love styles.
By knowing your partner’s love language, you’ll be able to recognize when your partner is giving you love.
You’ll be able to recognize what it is that makes your partner feel safe in a relationship.
You’ll also discover a little bit about yourself and how you want to be loved too.
In fact, I implore you to find that out, as well.
Then, have a conversation with them to reveal yours too!
2. Love them according to their love language
Now that you know their love language, you can love them according to how they wish to be loved.
The act of loving your partner according to their love language will skyrocket your relationship to new heights.
There will be far more passion.
There will be far more intimacy.
There will be far more honest communication.
And you should also allow them to love you according to your own love language.
Both of you will be loved and cared for.
3. Make time for them
It’s easy to let your relationship fall to the wayside if you are particularly a busy individual.
It takes an investment, on both sides, to keep a relationship alive, thriving, and healthy.
Well, that’s great and all, but where can I possibly find the time to spend with them?
The truth of the matter is that we all have 24 hours in a day.
16 hours if you sleep for 8 hours.
We can’t expand our time past 24 hours.
But, I am willing to bet you can utilize your remaining 16 hours more efficiently.
Yes, this will mean putting down social media, video games, and the latest Netflix TV show.
And this will mean organizing your life with a calendar or your favorite planning tool.
This will not only give you more time to spend with your partner, but this will also lead you to a more fulfilling life.
4. Pay them a sincere compliment
Giving your partner a sincere compliment is the easiest way to light up their day.
In fact, it will reinforce the current behavior or trait you are complimenting them on.
For example, if your partner is ambitious, you could say:
“I really appreciate and love your ambition. You will move humanity forward one day.”
Your partner will appreciate the compliment and they will also strive to be even more ambitious in the future.
Also, you should always be listening to what your partner is saying.
If they are having a bad day, then ask them how they would like to be listened to:
Do you want to talk about solutions right now?
Would you rather just vent to me right now?
Do you just want to lay in my arms right now while I listen?
This will ensure that you don’t pry and fix your partner’s issue when they don’t want it fixed at the moment.
5. Physical love
Physical love is probably the easiest way to love your partner, in my opinion.
You just have to exude physical warmth towards them.
Hug them.
Kiss them.
Cuddle them.
Massage them.
Tickle them.
Pick them up.
Sit close to them.
Tease them a bit.
And yes, of course, sex is a part of physically touching your partner, but don’t let it only be about the sex.
Even if you are not physically around your partner, you could send them a quick text, describing how you would be touching them, if they were around you.
Like: “I should be kissing you right now.”
6. Write them a handwritten note
Writing a handwritten note to your partner lets them know just how much you deeply care for them.
It shows them that you took time out of your day and the bond between you two becomes even stronger.
This note also allows your partner to see your true personality.
As quoted from Sílvia Bastos,
“When you dedicate focused time to write to people, they will feel valued and loved — even if your grammar is imperfect and your structure inconsistent.”
Even a little post-it note can spark a flame in your relationship.
Put a bit of soul into your handwritten note.
It will truly go a long way.
There is truly a hidden superpower in writing things down, and more specifically, writing notes to your partner.
7. Gift them a sentiment
Yes, gift your partner something deep and meaningful to them.
If you know they enjoy creative gifts, paint a picture of them.
Write them a song.
Make them a playlist.
If you know they enjoy nurturing, gift them a plant with a backstory.
And if you are really deep into the relationship, you could even consider adopting a dog with them.
Key Takeaways
Loving your partner can quite literally move your life forward.
And to reiterate my personal 7 ways of loving your partner are:
1. Find out their love language
2. Love them according to their love language
3. Make time for them
4. Pay them a sincere compliment
5. Physical love
6. Writing them a handwritten note
7. Gifting them a sentiment
Of course, there are plenty more ways to love your partner.
In fact, there are an endless amount of ways to love and appreciate your partner.
The only thing that matters is that you love your partner and allow love to flow throughout your relationship.
And always remember, you get what you give.
If you want more love in your relationship, start by giving more love relationship.
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